I have recently taken on the challenge of opening up a side business << the BOHO stow >> that has brought up a lot of internal and external conflict for me. Believe it or not, my life as just a lawyer is really not that busy. I have made it a priority to not let my work run my life and that is how I operate the best. I love having free time to visit with family and friends, to discover new things and places to obsess about, and to RELAX. I have quickly found out that you don't get those luxuries as often when you start your own business on top of a full time job.
Being really busy has made me think a lot about selflessness. True, pure selflessness >> not the half ass selfishness disguised as selflessness. I think selflessness is really devalued in today's society, when it should be common place. For example, have you ever noticed how many Facebook likes and shares a video about saving a homeless dog gets? Why are people so impressed by such a simple selfless act? I think it is because we don't practice selflessness as much as we should.
Some of the most selfless people in my life have been both of my mothers: my biological mom and my dad's mom, who we lovingly called Nanny. Nanny raised my sister and I in Georgia from a young age until high school, when we went to live with our mother in Texas. Nanny raised all of my dad's family, always putting everyone else's needs before hers. And my mother, Myong or "Mia," would help anyone out just out of the goodness of her heart without expecting anything in return. I admire these women so much, and I hope that just a little bit of their selfless character has been instilled in me.
Here's a challenge: think about the last time that you have been truly selfless >> When have you put the feelings of others before your own? When have you forgiven the careless act of another because of what they are going through? When have you helped a stranger just out of the goodness of your heart without expecting anything in return? If you can't remember a recent time, then it's been too long. We could all benefit from a little more selflessness.